Hope you all had wonderful weekends.
Amazed at how the weekend included tons of fun, walks, and
laugh with some fabulous friends.
Last night I had a really interesting conversation with my best
friend, Elena.
We had a long discussion about relationship problems.
"The fear of intimacy-Elena said- is a common relationship
problem which can involve emotional distance.
We are talking here about losing our unique selves, or being
trapped; we fear being swallowed up by another person".
"Regarding me -Elena continues- this relationship problem
is revealed in a very weird way.
Alas, I let my fear to dictate my behaviour, (which sounds like
idiosyncrasies to other people!), and finally wrecks my
relationship. But it is not "me".
It's the hesitation in revealing myself to another person as well.
And I also know that criticism, contempt do not keep love alive.
In fact, it'll thwart our relationship goals for good".
I think that everyone struggles with relationship problems,
but some people struggle more than others.
When we get into a new relationship the questions and doubts
potentially begin to surface.That is another relationship
problem, the fear of making a mistake.
We may wonder if we could have done better for our selves,
if our friends and family will approve etc.
A sort of playing the "What if's" game.
Of course this fear makes us assume the worst.
We jump to conclusions, perhaps sabotaging our relationship
that just needed space to grow. *sigh*.
I wonder if... xx
My day started out awful, with one of those stomachaches that
