January 31, 2010

Do You Feel Like You Are Too Nice?

Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov.
                                                 I think this book is a must-read. I would recommend this book
                                                 without  reservation.
                                                 Every woman knows what it feels like to be taken for granted.
                                                 These problems are common to most women married and single
                                                 The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions
                                                 women often ask:
                                                 * Why a strong woman is much more desirable than a      
                                                  a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices herself? (oh, how that
                                                  reminds me of my mum).
                                                 * Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they
                                                 * What does a man respect a woman when she stands up
                                                  for herself?
                                                  The author explains.."the bitch I'm talking about is not the
                                                  bitch on wheels or the mean-spirited character that
                                                  Joan Collins played on Dynasty nor is it the classic office
                                                  bitch who is hated by everyone at work.
                                                  Success in love isn't about looks; it's about attitude and
                                                  presence of mind."
                                                  This is the woman who plays by her own rules, who has
                                                  a feeling of confidence and empowerment.
                                                  I absolutely share author's views. 
                                                  Actually, men like it when a woman has a bit of an edge to her.
                                                  So, lovely ladies...
                                                  Don't always say "yes!"

                                                  What do you think?  I'd love to hear. I am always interested in
                                                  your views. xx             

January 12, 2010

How do You Rejuvenate the Spirit?

                                     We each struggle with common issues of stress, physical ailments,
                                      and psychological burdens of loneliness, isolation,
                                      and frustration.
                                      There are different tactics that many of us use to cope a
                                      and rejuvenate the spirit.
                                      For me, music, shopping, exercise, are some good tactics for
                                      rejuvenating the spirit.
                                      I, personally, need to be creative. Albert Einstein once said, creativity is                                       intelligence having fun. Sometimes
                                      that is able to hold all levels of my being.
                                      I'm aware of the importance of using a list of priorities
                                      to determine where to spend my energy.
                                      What are the tasks I need to accomplish today and what are
                                      short-term goals.
                                      I wouldn't say long-term goals. You just never know where t
                                      the road will take you.
                                      Once I have these clearly in focus I'm better able to prioritize the
                                      demands and expectations coming at me.
                                      I find that without taking the time in the morning to do this and
                                      just walking into the day, it's just so damn easy to get lost in
                                      clutter memory and reaction, and before knowing it the day is gone
                                       in a vague blur of unconsciousness and unawareness.
                                      What are the tactics you use to cope and calm yourselves ?
                                       I 'd love to hear. xx

January 08, 2010

Memorable Kisses

                               Tobey Maguire and Kirsten Dunst,  "Spider-Man".
                                       Burt Lancaster and Deborah Kerr in "From Here to Eternity"
                               Audrey Hepburn and George Peppard in "Breakfast at Tiffany's".
                                       The most memorable kiss in the rain.

                                       Fabulous "wet" kisses! Kisses! The romantic, the erotic,   
                                       the desperate kiss, the manhandle kiss (before feminism),
                                       the wow kiss, the... a little bit naughty, a little bit nice, kiss!

                                       I really love this dailogue below when the woman takes charge;
                                       in "To Have or To Have Not" movie.
                                       She (Lauren Bacall) lands on Bogart's lap and kisses him .
                                       He: (Smiling): What was that for?
                                       She: Been wondering whether I'd like it.
                                       He: What's the decision?
                                       She: I don't know yet.
                                       At which point she goes in for another; this time he kisses
                                       her back. 
                                       Finally she stands, gives him a sidelong glance and says.
                                       "It's even better when you help!".
                                       Now that's cool!       
                                       But I really wasn't aware of articles which teach a guy how
                                       to kiss a girl at movies! 
                                       I got this off a website as I was browsing. I find this article 
                                       way too funny and it keeps making me laugh;
                                       whenever I read it.
                                       1. Take your girl to the movies, not a horror movie,
                                           or anything like that, possibly an action or comedy movie.
                                           ( If you know she wants to go see something, suggest it
                                           yourself, dude!)
                                       2.Wait for a romantic scene.
                                           ( You may have to wait a while because they usually
                                           come around the middle to the end.
                                           You can always continue the kissing in the car) (!).
                                       3. Put your arm behind your girlfriend during the romantic
                                           scene. (Don't laugh awkwardly. She will be creeped out) (!).
                                       4. Wait about 15 seconds to a minute(!) (!).
                                       5. Look her in the eye.
                                       6. Continue to slowly get closer to her and remember to tilt
                                           your head (!).
                                       7. Kiss her gently for no more than three seconds(!) (!) (!)
                                           And then pull away.
                                       8. See what the reaction is.
                                       9. Always make sure that your lips are smooth and kissable. (!)
                                      10. Here's...you have to add the last step!! Come on!

                                       Poor me! I just thought kisses were spontaneous!? 
                                        . She doesn't need to be your girlfriend. (!)
                                          but a girl you have a crash on.
                                        . Try not to have bad breath, bring mints, try not to eat (!)
                                          until after the kiss or when you know not going to kiss
                                          any time soon.(!)  
                                        .Take it one step at a time.
                                        . If she puts her hand on your body that's a dead give away.
                                        . Never ask her to kiss you, unless you already have.

                                       THINGS YOU 'LL NEED:
                                        . Mints, chap-stick, breath spray.
                                        . A movie that you know will have a good scene (!)
                                          to set the mood. (Maybe this means you 'll have
                                          to watch a movie you have already seen). (!)
                                          but, hey! it's more than worth it!

                                        What a brilliant strategy!  xx            

                                         (Photos courtesy of Google images)      

Graceful Roe Deer

Nature in all its enchanting beauty! Colorado, USA.

Oh deer...I do love you so. Did you know that deer are active during the twilight?

"...In the dawn-dirty light, in the biggest snow of the year two blue-dark deer stood in the road alerted. They planted their two or three years of secret deer-hood.
Clear on my snow-screen vision of the abnormal and hesitated in the all-way disintegration and stared at me.
And for some lasting seconds I could think the deer were waiting for me.
The deer had come for me. They ducked through the hedge, and upright they rode their legs away downhill over a snow-lonely field."
By Ted Hughes

(Photos courtesy of Google images. Does anyone know the name of the photographer?)

January 06, 2010

It's Great To Be Able To Giggle!

I'd like to share this funny story with you today. In today's stressful world we need to laugh much more.

A married couple were in a terrible accident where the man's face was severely burned. The doctor told the husband that they couldn't graft any skin from his body, because he was too skinny.
So, the wife offered to donate some of her own skin. However, the only skin on her body that the doctor felt was suitable would have to come from her buttocks.
The husband and wife agreed that they would tell no one about where the skin came from, and they requested that the doctor also honor their secret. After all, this was a very delicate matter.
After the surgery was completed everyone was astounded at the man's new face. He looked more handsome that he ever had before!
A quite youthful beauty! All his friends and relatives just went on overcome with emotion at her sacrifice.
One day, he was alone with his wife, and he was..."You for everything you did for me. How can I possibly repay you?"

"My darling, she replied, I get all the thanks I need every time I see your mother kiss you! xx                        

January 03, 2010

Listen To Your Children

"But since the grown-ups were not able to understand it, I made another drawing: I drew the inside of the boa constrictor, so that the grown-ups could see it clearly.They always need to have things explained. My Drawing Number Two looked like this. (Photo above). The grown-ups' response, this time, was to advise me to lay aside of boa constrictors, whether from the inside or the outside, and devote myself instead to geography, history, arithmetic, and grammar. That is why, at the edge of six, I gave up what might have been a magnificent career as a painter. I had been disheartened by the failure of my Drawing Number One and my Drawing Number T."

"...and after some work with a coloured pencil I succeeded in making my first drawing. My Drawing Number One. It looked like this. (Photo above). I showed my masterpiece to the grown-ups, and asked them weather the drawing frightened them. But they answered: " Frightened? Why should anyone be frightened by a hat? "My drawing was not a picture of a hat. It was a picture of a boa constrictor digesting an elephant."

"Grown-ups never understand anything by themselves, and it is tiresome for children to be always and forever explaining things to them. Whenever I met one of them who seemed to me at all clear-sighted, I tried the experiment of showing him my Drawing Number One, which I had always kept. I would try to find out, so, if this was a person of true understanding. But, whoever it was, he, or she, would always say:
"That is a hat. " Then I would never talk to that person about boa constrictors, or primeval forests, or stars. I would talk to him about bridge, and golf, and politics, and neckties.
And the grown-up would be greatly pleased to have met such a sensible man."
This is the beginning of the wonderful book The Little Prince, by Antoine de Saint-Exupe'ry.
Such a strange and wonderful  parable for all ages; a MUST-read.

The author asks the indulgence of the children who may read this book for dedicating it to a grown-up, Leon Werth, who understands everything even books about children.

All grown-ups were once children- although few of them remember it.
Actually, I so believe in encouraging child's self-esteem and confidence. I remember my dad would always encourage and help me get involved in activities that could raise my self-confidence; such as music or art.

What is your opinion, dear readers? How can we develop child's social skills, or boost self-confidence?
When you were children did you get any support by your parents?

I'd like to dedicate this post to all grown-ups who still remember they were once children. xx