I read this excerpt on TopNews.in, the other day, and it has stuck with me; actually, it made me feel relieved. Happiness, it turns out, has a cost when experienced too intensely. In fact, the more we strive for happiness, the more likely we will set unrealistic expectations that will result in disappointment when they are not met.
"Wanting to be happy can make you less happy," said study researcher Iris Mauss, a psychologist at the University of California, Berkeley.
"If you explicitly and purposely focus on happiness, that appears to have a self-defeating quality."
Mauss explained she is not saying, "Don't try to be happy," but rather that an exaggerated focus on happiness can have downsides. "It's certainly not always the case that pursuing
happiness is a bad thing. If you give people the right tools to pursue happiness, then they can increase their happiness and well-being."
She said there were some methods that may ultimately help people achieve happiness without the negative effects that accompany its pursuit.
One way, she said, may be for people to learn to engage their emotions by doing activities they enjoy, while taking the focus off the goal of happiness itself.
Another is to change the type of happiness one pursues. For more, go
here.
(Found on
TopNews.in )
Hope you have a beautiful weekend! xx
P.S. Remember, the seeds of happiness only and always lie within!
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